You are afraid of change and are clouded with the fear of ‘What if’. This is future thinking which in fact is an abstract concept. Since the future has yet to exist, it is only in your mind do you project outcomes, happenings, and cause/effect without actual proof and certainty.
You may be able to make decisions, take educated guesses, and weigh out each possibility, but only when something materializes, does it become the reality – for better or for worse. You have the choice to propel yourself forward and make changes or you can decide to stand still and let life unfold as it takes you along for the ride or simply happens around you.
Society, family, friends, colleagues, and the media place lots of value on one’s endurance and fighting spirit. Stories are recounted based upon failures that turn into successes. These anecdotes include going from poor to rich, sick to healthy, defeated vs. victorious, and depressed to happy.
You tend to be defined not so much by the kindness of your heart, or the creation of a life that is authentic in his own context, along with strengths and weaknesses. Rather you tend to be defined by the institution you have graduated from, occupation, relationship/family status, and social position – rooted within the material World of achievements and possessions.
When it is time to make a decision to walk away, make a change, and go in a different direction that does not fit the confines of what others perceive and think to be true or correct, you suffer the consequences. By stifling what feels right or if needed to be investigated further for personal growth, you may be held back by self-imposed and external anxiety based upon ‘how things should be’ – which is derived from a makeshift set of standards.
People, places, and things start in one way only to evolve into someone or something else. When someone or something no longer serves its purpose, there is no need to hold on for dear life and resist transitions and shifts in the tide. The idea of ‘walking away’ is looked upon as a sign of weakness. If you do not put up a good fight, you are seen to be indecisive and passive.
You may try to convince yourself along with listening to other’s opinions that you must remain where you are, that it is easier to keep things status quo than to rock the boat, and to be grateful for what you have instead of striving for more. There is truth to this – in moderation and if founded through gratitude.
But there is also appreciation for finding your way, listening to your own voice and the supportive voices of others who seek to be helpful rather than harmful, along with realizing that sometimes the boat needs to be thrown around at sea in order for it to arrive safely in the harbor.