Especially women tell me that they need Love so much or that they want someone to love them and only them. The need to be loved could be considered one of your most basic and fundamental needs.

In your pursuit of the need to be loved, however, you will recognize that you have a parallel need: the need to love and care for others. This desire is just as strong as the need to be loved.

We know that the desire to love and care for others is well-connected and deep-seated within you because fulfillment of this desire enhances your happiness level.

Expressing Love or compassion for others benefits not just the recipient of affection, but also its perpetrator.

Society suggest to you that your happiness lies in being the recipient of others’ attention, Love, and respect, rather than in being the donors of attention, Love, and respect.

Most of us are explicitly or implicitly told that happiness lies in achieving self-enhancing goals such as career, success, wealth, fame, or power.

The need to love and care for others, in contrast, is rarely emphasized, except perhaps in the arts.

Is it better to be with a person who loves you more than you love them? Is it better to adore than to be adored?

Maybe it seems safer to have someone love you more then you love them. Your parameters for choosing your Love may change as you age.

With maturity you may seek more stability and compatibility rather then physical attraction and passion.

But even though maturity and your intellect may tell you one thing, your brain will always seek out a person similar to the love of your life.

A woman’s love of her life is an emotionally powerful reality that becomes deeply embedded in her brain.

The feelings of familarity are so powerful that they determine whom she choose to be with in the future.