If you do everything for the purpose of finding happiness, you may achieve much, but you are not likely to find happiness. The higher the value you put on being happy, the more likely you are to be unhappy. Encouraging a mindset to maximize happiness may be counterproductive.
To find happiness you must not seek it.
You are so concerned with getting to a place of happiness, you never really are happy, rather you are forever and evere on the hunt or search for your happiness because nothing is quite good enough to bring you happiness.
I can not tell if what the world considers ‘happiness’ is happiness or not. All I know is that when I consider the way they go about attaining it, I see them carried away headlong, grim and obsessed, in the general onrush of the human herd, unable to stop themselves or to change their direction. All the while they claim to be just on the point of attaining happiness. – Zhuangzi
Happiness does not appear to be derived from the pursuit of happiness but is a consequence of pursuing a life of meaning and well-being. It really is in how you live your life. It becomes a positive cycle of the pursuit of a sense of purpose that creates more positive experiences which provide more reinforcement for pursuing goals.
Simply doing things that feel good is not enough. It is in the process of working towards something you deeply care about that you find fulfillment. It is not about the attainment of goals, or reaching some ultimate success, but knowing that every single day you are moving towards your goals and becoming your ideal Self.
The development of kindness, compassion and understanding for others can bring you the tranquility and happiness you seek. Give as much as you can. The more you see yourself entrusted with the happiness of others, the more you receive in return. Live in harmony with one another and reach out to those special to you.
Happiness is who you are minus your neuroses. In other words, happiness is your original state minus the belief that happiness has to be bought, or minus the fear that happiness is somewhere else. Inner happiness is a release from foolish external conditioning and a return to divine saneness.
Think mindfully, practice mindfulness in everything you do as much as it is possible. Eat mindfully, take a mindful walk with no destination in mind and notice your breath, and the details of your surroundings. Take a break from your inner conversations that you have with yourself.
Be grateful. It is a great way to practice mindfulness and living in the moment. Buddha said that gratitude, among other qualities, was the highest protection, meaning that it inoculates you against unhappiness. It is by being grateful and appreciative that you begin to focus on the blessings in your life, which makes you more positive and happy.
Work for your purpose not for money. If you are constantly chasing money it makes it a lot less meaningful. Materialism and money will not bring you refuge. Work towards meaningful goals, make each step of your progress mean something more than just material or financial progress. And if you can not name or describe your purpose or passion, find one.
The more you try to find happiness, the more it will elude you.
With greens in the landscapes and the bright oranges of ripe mangos and papayas, Fiji flaunts all the feel-good colors. Everywhere you turn there is something colorful to make you smile. Then there is the brilliant blue and green of a sea that is comfortably warm enough to plunge into while still being refreshing.
With temperatures between 26 and 31 degrees few complain of the cold in Fiji. Clothes are needed for modesty only and life happens mostly outdoors. With all the sunshine no one is going to end up vitamin D deficient and plenty of rain keeps the land fresh and thriving with abundant food and clean water.
Fiji is known to have some of the best food in the South Pacific thanks to the Indian, Southeast Asian and Chinese influences blended with Melanesian tropical fruits, coconut, pork and seafood. Much of what is available is local, and fresh. Just looking at the fruit dripping from the trees, the numerous fish in the ocean and the smells from Indian restaurants is enough to make you smile.