Eye contact is an experience you have daily but likely not consciously. Often you can recognize that it is sometimes shunned or avoided altogether. For a species so visually oriented, why is it so difficult to make and maintain proper eye contact with strangers?
This is because making contact with another’s eyes an intimate experience. ‘Intimate’ is a sister word of ‘intimation’, which is an act of indirectly knowing something, a hint. So being intimate does not have to relate to romantic connection, but it is an understated, silent, intuitive connection with another person or being.
When you look into another’s eyes, you establish a subtle connection that brings you closer to the other person. Couple that with romantic, sexual or bonding feelings and you can see why just 30 seconds of looking into someone’s eyes can produce intense responses.
Everyone contains something of the divine in them, and when you look into the eyes, you sense something of this.
It is about the inward reflection that takes place as you look into another’s eyes. While you see into the window of another’s soul, it becomes apparent that they too see into your own soul and here begins the interaction who functions simultaneously as the observer and the observed. Each discovers a part of the other’s soul, hidden and intimate, the intensity of which converges into a question: What is reflected in the eyes of the observer?
In the case of eye contact, you can choose to see it as an opportunity to disconnect, you can choose to keep a safe distance by avoiding, or you can choose to strengthen your relationships by opening your doors. Depending on your level of resilience and your level of Awareness, your choice will propel you into darker moods or create a wiser Consciousness. Which pair of eyes you choose to see with will determine what manifests.
Eye contact are doors. When you walk inside, you enter another’s house. You gain access to their rooms, the closets, the places where they cleanse, purify. And depending on how comfortable the host becomes with you, these rooms will be unlocked so you can walk seamlessly. Open access to another’s inner world is developed through trust. At the highest trust level, you are given a key to enter and leave as you please.
Opia. So much can be said in a glance. Such ambiguous intensity, both invasive and vulnerable – glittering black, bottomless and opaque. The eye is a keyhole, through which the World pours in and a World spills out.
And for a few seconds, you can peek through into a vault, that contains everything they are. But whether the eyes are the windows of the soul or the doors of perception, it doesn’t matter: you’re still standing on the outside of the house.
Eye contact isn’t really contact at all. It’s only ever a glance, a near miss, that you can only feel as it slips past you.
There’s so much we keep in the back room. We offer up a sample of who we are, of what we think people want us to be. But so rarely do we stop to look inside, and let our eyes adjust, and see what’s really there.
Because you too are peering out from behind your own door. You put yourself out there, trying to decide how much of the World to let in. It’s all too easy for others to size you up, and carry on their way.
They can see you more clearly than you ever could. And yours is the only vault you can’t see into, that you can’t size up in an instant.
So we’re all just exchanging glances, trying to tell each other who we are, trying to catch a glimpse of ourselves, feeling around in the darkness.
As much as we want to enforce the meaning of equality as exactly the same, the masculine and feminine energies are different and work in harmony together. The needs may be the same but how each receives those needs differ. Conscious men and women understand and embrace this. A man who treats his romantic lady like a man only dissolves any chemistry they might have. The same occurs for a woman who engages her man as if he was another woman.
She has a deep desire for attention, for receptivity, for fire and appreciation. When she is loyal, she wants this only from you. Her energy is strongly intuitive, open and flowing. Her path to freedom exists within free-flow expression; the poison to her freedom is enforced control. The more she feels loved by the man she loves, the more open she becomes to him, and she demonstrates a devotion he likely will not experience anywhere else.
This is why for your romantic partner, engaging her eyes is essential. When you speak with her, set your distractions down and offer your full attention. Take the extra time to position yourself in a way that she sees you; she wants to see you. Look into her eyes not because you feel you are supposed to; do it because you want to connect with her body and soul quality. She will feel your intent and consequently will feel safe enough to open up to you.