We can change. But we can not just snap our fingers and say goodbye to our well-established patterns, even when those patterns result in bad consequences. We wish it could be easier. We do not change just because someone (even ourselves) wants us to.
‘It is too hard, it is not in our DNA, it requires excessive effort.’ Such a mindset will sabotage efforts before even beginning. Though it is true that we are who we are and that our personality structure is what it is, it is not true that we can not modify, alter, or change many aspects of how we behave.
It is a process that begins with being aware. This may seem obvious, but it is not. We are used to blaming everyone else for the World‘s problems, so then we are not aware.
We are living our life in a daze, blaming bad luck, so then we are in denial. How are we ever going to change the World if we do not own up to how our thinking and behavior help create the predicament the World is in?
Self-awareness without judgment, similar to an anthropologist observing behavior in an attempt to understand, is the first step. Yet, we can be fully aware of our bad habits and still not change.
A no-nonsense commitment to change is what is missing. In a quiet moment of truth, when alone and not under pressure by anything or anyone, our ‘executive’ Self in harmony with our ‘emotional’ Self, make a solemn pledge to change.
No more excuses. No more magical thinking. No more self-sabotage. We know it will not be easy, but so what! We are committed to the goal.
Acknowledge the need for self-discipline, perseverance, and hard work. We know why we want to change the World (for the better). We know who we want to be (as Society). We know that our actions need to adhere to our beliefs.
It makes no sense claiming we want to change the World but then doing nothing about it. Tired of disappointing ourselves. Fed up with feeling frustrated. We welcome change. We are ready to go. Get off your butt. And get off excuse-making ‘but’.