You hold onto what you want everyone else to be, what you want yourself to be, what you would like your work and families and life to be. You want things to be comfortable, nice, pretty and ordered. Unfortunately, work is hectic, people demand your attention, you are not as disciplined as you would like, people do things that frustrate you, and there is just too much to do and read and learn and process.
You replay past mistakes over and over again in your head, allowing your feelings of shame and regret to shape your actions in the present. You cling to frustration and worry about the future, as if the act of fixation somehow gives you power. You hold stress in your mind and in your body, potentially creating serious health issues, and accept that state of tension as the norm.
If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace. – Ajahn Chah
Letting go happens when you least expect it – when you are at one with your-self, captured within a moment by deeper senses. It is in the inopportune moments you are often the most aligned, present and in flow. Caught unaware, you fall into yourself and into the status quo of alignment. And yet it does not always feel good. It can happen at the best of times and at the worst of times; because it is an act which runs deeper than your emotions.
Letting go is perhaps the hardest personal act you can do, and so you tend to allow it unconsciously. It takes ‘all of your psyche’ for it to truly happen … for the job to be done. You may say that you are letting go of something, someone, an experience, but it is the full acceptance – on every level of your being – which enables its lightness of passage.
A useful piece of wisdom is that it is never a person or thing that you are letting go of, but an energy. What needs to stay, stays. You are energy. What releases, transforms. In the process you become lighter and more grounded.
Letting go is needed for forgiveness, acceptance, belief, growth, presence – the list is endless. It relies on intention and space. Time is not in the equation; it is a timeless act which includes multi-dimensions of past, present, future. It is a precious gift you give yourself, and an art to cultivate.