Never force anything. Give it your best shot, and then let it be. If it is meant to be, it will be.
You wish away the present moment hoping for something better. Your inattentiveness creates anguish and disappointment, because you are certain when you get what you want, you will be happy.
Yet, when it arrives there is another desire waiting to take its place.
You are in the business of wanting more, you become fixated on wanting and desiring, instead of appreciating what is before you. Hence the cycle of suffering ensues.
If you consider the present moment as perfect, what is meant to be will find its way into your life. To accept this moment means to appreciate that your present circumstances result from past thoughts and actions.
Everything happens for a reason, yet you may not be privy to the reasons until the entire picture is formed. Sometimes, you do not realise it in this lifetime.
Whether you are a determinist, a fatalist or believe in free will, there is an inherent order to life devoid of your control. Life can change at the drop of a hat, so you ought to be attentive to what you value most.
What is meant to be invites you to let go of the mental struggle that opposes the natural flow of life.
When a condition arises that does not match your mental picture, move into your heart and consider the greater lesson contained within the experience.