So afraid that you won’t make it, that you grab it too hard. That you just have to have that thing! And if you do that, you destroy it completely.
And therefore after ever attempt to get it, you feel disappointed, you feel empty, you feel something was lost. And therefore you want it again.
And you have to keep repeating, repeating, repeating – because you never really got there. And it is this that is the hang up. This is what is meant by attachment to the World, in an evil sense.
But on the other hand, pleasure in its fullness, can not be experienced when one is grasping it.
I knew a little girl to whom someone gave a bunny rabbit. She was so delighted by the bunny rabbit, and so afraid of losing it, that taking it home in the car, she squeezed it to death with Love.
And lots of parents do that to their children. And lots of spouses do it to each other. They hold on too hard, and so take the life out of this transient, beautifully fragile thing that life is … To have it, to have life, and to have its pleasure, you must at the same time let go of IT!
By that I dont mean that you just go through it mechanically and have your thoughts elsewhere. I mean a completeparticipation but still detached.
And then, you can feel perfectly free to have that pleasure in the most gutsy, earthy, frolicking, liplicking way. Ones whole being taken over by a kind of undulating, convulsive ripple, that is like the very pulse of life itself. This can happen only if you let go.
There are people like that, who just aren’t hung up. They are the poor in spirit. That is to say, they are spiritually poor in the sense of they don’t cling on to any property.
They don’t carry any burdens around; they are free. Well, just that sort of spiritual poverty, that let-go-ness, is quite essential for the enjoyment of any kind of pleasure at all, and particularly sexual pleasure …