People are not born liars. It happens over time in all sorts of ways. Maybe telling the truth gets you into trouble. Maybe telling the truth could hurt someone. Maybe telling the truth is too scary. Maybe telling the truth is too difficult to believe. Maybe telling the truth is totally and utterly and completely unacceptable.
It is harder to tell the truth than to tell people what they want to hear.
It is very difficult to tell the truth especially when it is not what others are hoping to hear. You can not change other people or make them tell the truth. You may never know if someone is truly telling you the truth. All you can do is tell your own truth. And remember, the truth you tell is your truth – the truth based on your perception.
It is very difficult to hear the truth especially when it is not what you are hoping to hear. Nobody wants to be told that their lives are a mess because of their own doing. Nobody wants to feel judged, ridiculed and humiliated. Unfortunately, that is exactly what you need to make the necessary changes in your life.
If hearing the truth is harsh when coming from someone else, how about looking yourself in the mirror and speaking the truth to yourself. How about looking yourself in the eyes and admit. The truth will indeed set you free but first it will make you uncomfortable.
Lying, even just once, can destroy a relationship in a moment. Think about that. You invest years in building a relationship with someone important and then, because of a lie, you send that investment into that relationship down the toilet. What a waste of time.
Telling the truth must be forged on a daily basis. Those who lie, do not build long-lasting relationships with individuals who can open doors for you – success-minded individuals. Success-minded individuals do not tolerate liars. They toss them away, like yesterday’s trash. Once you lose their trust, you lose the relationship. Along with that lost trust, is lost money, as they take their business and their relationship elsewhere.
When you lie to someone, you open yourself to unexpected consequences. The individual you lied to will almost always share their distrust of you with others. Lying creates a domino effect of negative consequences that makes success almost impossible.
Sometimes telling the truth can be painful. Most individuals would rather avoid confrontation but telling the truth can result in confrontation. It is better to deal with the discomfort of telling the truth then in dealing with the ramifications of telling a lie. Lies almost always come back to bite you when you least expect it. Better to tell a hard truth than an easy lie.