Everyone wants to be liked. That is quiet normal. But in social media of today the desire to be held in high regard goes too far. An excessive desire to be liked can originate from a lot of different issues.
You experience a little social anxiety and you worry that others are judging you harshly. In an effort to reduce your anxiety now you go a little overboard trying to be liked.
Or maybe you are on the other end of the spectrum; you have got a hint of narcissism. Narcissists tend to want to be liked by others, especially those with a higher status, because it inflates their self-importance.
Or you might land somewhere in the middle, maybe you learned to be a people-pleaser at a young age. Or you feel a little unsure of yourself and being liked gives your self-esteem a much needed boost.
No matter the root cause, it is important to recognize when your desire to be liked is becoming self-destructive. There are always repercussions. Saying yes to one thing means saying no to something else.
People want to know where you stand on issues and if you are only willing to say what people want to hear, no one will take you seriously. You will struggle to make decisions and you will never stand out as a true leader.
People-pleasers are often the first to help others, but they are usually the last ones to ask for help. If you can not ask for help when you need it, you will miss out on a lot of valuable opportunities.
Delegating tasks, working as a team, and supporting one another’s efforts are key to healthy personal and professional relationships.
Allowing other people to infringe on your time and space can lead you to grow resentful toward them. It is impossible to live in accordance to your own values when you are simultaneously trying to please everyone else.
Your values will be in direct conflict with the options placed in front of you. And when you choose to make the decisions that align with your values, other people won’t necessarily be happy.
Try to like yourself instead of trying to be liked.